There is a coined term called ‘spiritual hygiene’ which refers to ones cleanliness pertaining to their energy, grounding and protecting oneself regularly just as one brushes their teeth, bathe their body or wear protective clothing from environmental harms. Thinking of this in terms of emotions and the internal world (like self talk) helps clarify just how important this can be in daily life. When we have a bad day, or wake up in a bad mood, it’s easy to find ways to confirm it throughout the day. ‘All red lights, great! Today of all days, how much worse can this get?’ Then they seem to accumulate in small ways like spilling the coffee or dealing with a rude or co-worker. It seems like the day will spiral and doesn’t seem to get better.

Just as we wash off dirt and sweat, spiritual hygiene helps cleanse the emotional and energetic layers that accumulate through interactions, environments, and even our own thoughts. It keeps us feeling balanced, clear-headed, and connected to our inner peace, helping us show up authentically, make decisions confidently, and stay aligned with our true selves. We can face daily challenges like those red lights or rude customers that leave a negative and draining residue on our energy, into moments of feeling grateful rather than becoming the new owner and carrying it around.

How do we begin to feel grateful for being slowed down on the way to work or for interacting with someone rude? If we look at it in terms of our brain chemistry it can be a simple switch flip. We unknowingly give our brain a task with a statement like ‘how much worse can things get’ kicking our brain off into gathering all evidence throughout the day to confirm that thought. Luckily it only takes mild self-discipline to override those default settings by framing the question differently.

By switching from a ‘world is happening to me’ state of mind to one where there are opportunities everywhere, things change pretty fast when we instead ask something like ‘things are happening for me’. Leading with more assurance and curiosity helps us elevate to who we want to be instead of confirming what isn’t working. No longer controlled by the situations around us and becoming someone where life comes from them , not at them.

The energy we embody have a profound impact on our experience in the world. From the relationships in our life, people we meet, to daily decisions big or small (like what to eat or how to care for ourselves). It’s a universal experience that humans have learned to care and neglect ourselves. When it comes to self-neglect, suppressing our needs or ignoring emotional signals our body is alerting us to investigate sets off a string of events inside the physical body. Check out our blog here showcasing what that looks like in a deep dive into how our brain and nervous system are effected by emotional repression. It doesn’t just stop with physical symptoms, our spiritual health alters, rendering the world around us. And there are 12 spiritual laws that exist in showing us how shaping the world around us is not about what we do but who we are is matched by energies around us.

There are 12 main spiritual laws, each a universal principle or truth that governs the unseen, spiritual aspects of life. These laws are often viewed as timeless and consistent, much like physical laws (e.g., gravity), but they operate on a metaphysical level, affecting our thoughts, emotions, and connections to ourselves, others, and the universe. Like a frog in a pond, ripples begin to form from the frog and expands out into the environment around it.

Universal laws are not biased, applying to all walks of life, of all background of beliefs. Spiritual laws are non-physical, they are interacted through intention, thought and energy and can encourage in our daily life to align with love, abundance and truth of desired positives outcomes. For example a gratitude journal is in alignment with the law of abundance or law of attraction and bring positive experiences.

I first learned about spiritual laws through my therapist who mentioned the law of attraction often in our sessions when coaching my business. I noticed there was a inner resistance in my chest, throat and stomach as she explained it to me, my immediate thought was resentment and anger . At the time I struggled deeply with my CPTSD, believing the world owed me something after all the abuse and misfortune I endured from childhood and years following. The thought of being on the receiving end of such unwarranted abuse and attempting to form a connection to ‘our thoughts and emotions create our reality’ actually really pissed me off. It felt like someone was telling me I deserved or asked for the treatment. Setting off an inner wound of unworthiness. But here is how she explained it:

The Law of Attraction doesn’t mean you ever ‘deserved’ pain, abuse, or mistreatment. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people’s wounds and traumas sometimes cause them to harm others. Abuse from unhealed people is never a reflection of your worth or something you ‘attracted’—it’s a reflection of their unprocessed pain, which is completely outside of your control.

What the Law of Attraction does mean is that, moving forward, you can empower yourself by shifting focus to things that bring you a sense of peace, healing, and self-compassion. The goal is not to ignore what happened but to consciously create a life that honors your strength and resilience, free from others' baggage. Your life’s path is your own, and healing can be a powerful way to move beyond that pain and call in the people, places, and experiences that truly respect and uplift you.

Looking at them individually here is what they mean in a victim mindset and what they could mean with an empowered one.

1. The Law of Divine Oneness

Victim Mode: We feel isolated, disconnected, and powerless, believing that life happens to us rather than seeing our interconnectedness with others.
Victor Mode: We see how we’re all connected, understanding that our thoughts, actions, and energy impact others and vice versa. This mindset encourages empathy and empowers us to shape our reality in unity with others.

2. The Law of Vibration

Victim Mode: We feel stuck in low-vibrational emotions like anger or sadness and might believe there’s no way out, reinforcing a sense of helplessness.
Victor Mode: We realize that we can shift our vibration by focusing on higher emotions like gratitude and love. We understand that raising our vibration attracts better experiences, allowing us to become more intentional creators of our lives.

3. The Law of Correspondence

Victim Mode: We believe our external circumstances define us and feel stuck because we think external change is impossible without internal change.
Victor Mode: We acknowledge that our inner world shapes our outer reality. By changing our mindset, beliefs, and self-perception, we can create a new reality that reflects our growth and empowerment.

4. The Law of Attraction

Victim Mode: We feel frustrated, believing that we’re attracting negativity through no fault of our own, which amplifies the victim mentality.
Victor Mode: We recognize the power of our thoughts, emotions, and intentions in attracting our experiences. By focusing on what we want rather than what we fear, we actively create a life of positivity and fulfillment.

5. The Law of Inspired Action

Victim Mode: We feel paralyzed or passive, hoping that change will come without any effort on our part, leading to inaction and further stagnation.
Victor Mode: We understand that action, guided by intuition, is key to manifesting our goals. This empowers us to move forward, making choices aligned with our highest potential, and trusting the process.

6. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy

Victim Mode: We may feel like our circumstances will never improve, not realizing that energy and situations are constantly changing.
Victor Mode: We know that even the smallest positive shift can lead to significant change. We take responsibility for our energy, transforming it to overcome challenges and cultivate a sense of hope.

7. The Law of Cause and Effect

Victim Mode: We may believe we’re suffering without reason or that life is unfair, blaming external sources for our pain.
Victor Mode: We recognize that every choice has a consequence, allowing us to make decisions aligned with our goals. We take ownership of our actions, empowering ourselves to create positive outcomes.

8. The Law of Compensation

Victim Mode: We feel resentful, believing that our hard work or efforts are unrecognized and unappreciated.
Victor Mode: We trust that all energy we put out will return to us in some form. This faith encourages us to continue putting positive actions into the world, knowing that the universe rewards sincere efforts.

9. The Law of Relativity

Victim Mode: We may compare ourselves unfavorably to others, feeling inadequate or inferior and seeing our challenges as worse than everyone else’s.
Victor Mode: We see our challenges as opportunities for growth, learning from them rather than resenting them. We understand that experiences are relative, helping us appreciate our journey and view setbacks as steps forward.

10. The Law of Polarity

Victim Mode: We focus on what’s wrong, feeling that life is filled with problems and seeing no way out of our circumstances.
Victor Mode: We realize that everything has an opposite. By recognizing and embracing contrast, we understand that challenges help us appreciate and create positive outcomes, giving us hope and perspective.

11. The Law of Rhythm

Victim Mode: We feel overwhelmed by life’s ups and downs, resisting change and seeing ourselves as unlucky or cursed during difficult times.
Victor Mode: We accept life’s natural rhythms, understanding that low points are temporary and will eventually cycle into highs. This acceptance allows us to embrace change with resilience and optimism.

12. The Law of Gender

Victim Mode: We may feel out of balance, leaning too heavily on either passive or aggressive energy, and feel stuck in specific roles or expectations.
Victor Mode: We balance our masculine (doing) and feminine (being) energies, allowing us to act when necessary and rest when needed. This balance creates harmony and aligns us with our true nature.

In victor mode, we align with these laws to reclaim our power, seeing every challenge as an opportunity to evolve, learn, and ultimately thrive. Recognizing this shift transforms our lives, allowing us to experience true empowerment through our conscious connection to each of these universal principles.

Authenticity does not just mean feel safe to be yourself, but creating balance in what you need right now to experience true sense of inner peace. Accepting situations as they are, allowing them to guide and form your ability to detach from beliefs that once hindered that access into a version of yourself that is not only comfortable being themselves but understands it’s imperative to being in harmony. To know survival mode is to also know everything is temporary and will balance, but it is up to us to practice and embody it. What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.